Just seeing that phrase makes me anxious. Sometimes I feel as though no matter what I do, I’m not doing well enough. I work too much, I don’t spend time with my kids enough, then there is food and activities on top of that. This mom guilt concept has completely derailed my life and I am no longer letting it define me.
Lately, our life with my three-year-old has been h-e-double hockey sticks. He is hitting, kicking, and just will not go to bed. Which leads to us yelling and attempts to redirect. Once he finally goes to sleep, the mom guilt kicks in. “I wish I didn’t yell at him or get frustrated” or “He’s going to have issues sleeping later in life because we yell so much.” It never ends.
What is Mom Guilt Really?
To me, mom guilt is that feeling that my children will never forgive me. It’s that feeling that I’m doing everything wrong even though they are healthy and thriving. But that is the kicker, they are healthy and thriving.
Do you know what I mean? My kids are happy, healthy, growing, learning, and simply amazing. All the other stuff that I put on myself is just that, I put it on myself. It seems that sometimes I let this mom guilt define my life and ruin my happiness. I should be able to make a life out of these lemon moments.
Don’t Let Mom Guilt Define You
This is my mission for myself and for all of you reading this: Take a deep breath and realize that you are doing a great job!
Don’t let mom guilt define you, stand up to yourself and shut out those negative thoughts. Yes, it’s a hard thing to do and no you won’t be perfect. Who is though? None of us are perfect and we are all making our way through this thing called motherhood. We will survive this time in life and it’s ok to feel guilty every once in a while. But, don’t ever let it define you.