Hi everyone! I apologize for skipping a week, life got in the way with lots of store activity and kids being sick.
Post #1 discussed the importance of starting this dialogue early, the importance of touch when bonding with your baby, and the importance of standing by your child if they refuse to hug or kiss a family member or friend. Today, we are going to talk about another early teaching tool, which is using the proper names to teach your child about his/her body parts, most importantly their genitals. Below are some articles that are GREAT at describing the “why”, much better than I can,
I totally understand why parents hesitate, with 7 children, we have had our share of PENIS or VULVA outbursts, especially in that magical 2-3 year old timeframe, when they love to see mom and dad react-lol
Like we said last week though, a few red-faced moments are a small price to pay for the worth behind what you are doing. Knowledge is always power, always, and education is important to protect your child against abuse. Imagine starting a new job, you are an assembly worker in a factory. Your livelihood depends on being able to put together a product, then explain it to the next person on the assembly line. They give you all the shiny, new pieces, but don’t tell you what any of them are called! How can you ask for help? What if something breaks, or goes missing, or you don’t know how it works. It is going to be awfully hard to describe or ask for help when you are calling them “that shiny thing, that bendy thing, that wiggly thing”, or come up with your own nicknames. Proper names are the first line of defense if something ever happens to your child. Being able to identify who did what, to where, and with what will be crucial in relaying that information to authorities, and even to mom and dad. Trying to correct them with new terminology will be hard and confusing, and this would be a time where clarity and reassurance is needed more than ever.
That isn’t to say if you have already used “nicknames” or slang to identify their genitals that all is lost, today is a new day, start with one body part a week. At bathtime, at bedtime, just like you would be teaching them a new color, a new shape, going back and educating them on the proper names is just as important.
Thank you everyone, we will chat again next week!